How You Teach People to Treat You (and How to Take Your Power Back)

Hey Ambitchious Tribe!

It's Katie Boyd, the original HBIC, and I’m here with a quick but powerful recap of this week’s Ambitchious Podcast episode: 

Let’s get real: Lately, it feels like people’s audacity is at an all-time high, am I right? Whether it’s out at dinner, traveling, or just interacting day-to-day, boundaries are getting tested everywhere. Today’s episode goes deep on how you—yes, YOU—teach others how to treat you, and how radical responsibility is everything when it comes to setting the standard for your relationships, work, and self-respect.

Key Takeaways:

1. Radical Responsibility Is Queen

 Stop wondering, “Why did they treat me this way?” and start asking, “Where did I give permission for this?” Accepting that you have the power to shape how others behave toward you is LIFE-CHANGING.

2. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries 

Strong, pristine boundaries aren’t just self-care—they’re an absolute necessity. If you accept mistreatment or disregard, you’re inadvertently telling people that’s okay with you. If you need a boundaries refresher, check out previous podcasts or my book (there’s a whole chapter on boundaries!). https://kbmfc.com/products/ambitchious-book

3. Respond to Mistreatment—Immediately

When someone crosses a line, don’t let it slide and hope for the best. Address it right then and there. The more consistent and direct you are, the faster people will adapt to the new standard you’re setting.

4. Flex that Self-Awareness Muscle 

Ask yourself: “Why am I letting this happen?” Address your own triggers and patterns—whether rooted in past trauma or old people-pleaser tendencies—so you can show up as your most powerful, intentional self.

5. Clear Communication: No One is a Mind-Reader 

Don’t expect others to magically know your needs and limits. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don’t apologize for it. It may feel uncomfortable, but resentment is a way worse feeling to carry.

6. Consistency is Everything 

Boundaries mean nothing without consistency. Be vigilant—don’t make exceptions because you’re tired, guilty, or just not in the mood to deal. If you waver, people will test those boundaries again and again.

7. Self-Respect (With a Side of Respect for Others) 

Remember: Upholding your standards isn’t just a favor to yourself—it’s also respectful to the other person. No one can meet your needs if you’re not clear about what they are.

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Let’s Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with your soul circle! And if you’re ready to take things deeper, check out the Ambitchious app or book a complimentary discovery call with me. Let’s get you living life at the next level—with zero apologies. https://kbmfc.com/pages/business-coaching

Stay Ambitchious, Queen. And as always, see you next Tuesday.

With love (and pristine boundaries), Katie MF Boyd